Dominants Realm
Duties of a Dominant
It is the duty of a Dominant to know and understand what the wants and needs of
a submissive are. Failure to do so may harm the submissive emotionally and
mentally.
It is the duty of a Dominant to control his/her emotions. To punish a submissive
in anger or to lash out to anyone is abusive.
It is the duty of a Dominant to remember that submission is a gift. To misuse
this gift is abusive. When the submissive is not free to take back the gift it
is no longer a gift.
It is the duty of a Dominant to watch over and protect all submissive's. This
does not mean to protect them from finding some other Dominant and to keep them
for oneself.
It is the duty of a Dominant to take only a submissive that will match him/her.
A submissive that is not into whips should not belong to a Dominant that loves
to whip submissive's.
It is the Duty of a Dominant to take only the amount of submissive's the
Dom/Domme can properly handle, control, love, comfort and care for. Do not keep
a submissive hanging, giving false hopes. Free and release the submissive so the
submissive can get along with finding the right Dominant.
It is the duty of a Dominant to watch and monitor the scene carefully and to
ensure the submissive is not being harmed either physically or emotionally. At
any time the slightest thing can go wrong and the scene is ruined for the
submissive and pleasure becomes actual pain.
It is the duty of a Dominant after a scene to ensure the submissive is
emotionally stable. During a scene the submissive is filled with hormones.
Afterwards the body reduces them and may cause severe depression to the extent
of being suicidal. The submissive must be made to understand the depression and
or emotional release is normal and expected. Normal emotions will return in
hours to a day. Anything longer is a sign of emotional instability in the
submissive and must be corrected before doing another scene. (A Dominant can
also experience this depression after a high from the scene.) Each reacts
differently some stay high for weeks and when they come down seek the scene
again to regain the high. This also can lead to problems such as longer, more
intense and dangerous scenes, with unknown Dominants.
Responsibilities of a Dom/Domme
It is the responsibility of a Dominant to insure an unowned submissive is guided
to a Dominant that is suited to the submissive's wants, needs and desires.
It is the responsibility of a Dominant to insure the submissive knows what being
abusive is. To insure this is to insure the submissive knows when to call it
quits.
It is the responsibility of a Dominant to ensure the submissive knows what the
submissive's rights are.
It is the responsibility of a Dominant to teach the submissive information about
the Lifestyle. The best method is to teach the submissive how to acquire this
information and where he/she can get it. An ignorant submissive can be an
embarrassment to a Dominant.
It is the responsibility of a Dominant to insure the submissive grows and
develops under the Dominant's ownership, in both the lifestyle and the public
life (i.e., job and family). Being submissive only means being a "doormat" when
the submissive has made it clear that is what the submissive is looking for.
Dishonorable Acts
For a Dominant to allow a submissive to be actually harmed in ANY way is
dishonourable.
For a Dominant to allow a submissive's rights to be violated is dishonourable.
For a Dominant to play with and discard a submissive just for amusement is
dishonourable (exception is a submissive that has declared this is the treatment
they need).
Unless the submissive has declared them selves to be unowned, another Dominant's
interference in a relationship is dishonourable.
To chase after or scene with Another's submissive without the other Dominant's
permission and full knowledge is dishonourable.
No Dominant can be expected to live up to the above 100% of the time, others
will respect him/her for trying and the harder she/he tries the more respect all
will have for the Dominant and his/hers.
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