BDSM & D/s

And he said, 'Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.
Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart may stand in the sun,
so must you know pain.Khalil Gibran
Teasing and tormenting breasts and nipples
From:
http://www.powerotics.com
Teasing, tormenting and erotically torturing the breasts and nipples is probably
one of the most frequently used techniques, when it comes to erotic power
exchange.
One function of the female breasts is to attract the confused male. Why
confused? Well, because genetically speaking breasts are substitutes for
something else: the buttocks. As you will probably know all male mammals, when
having sex, will do that in what is generally known as the doggy position - in
other words: from behind. Male humans originally where
programmed in exactly that same way. However, since evolution taught us that
we're better off on two legs, the human male got confused and sometimes still
is. That is why some men like breasts to be big. Simply because they'll look
more like what they were genetically encoded to look for.
Literally no two breasts or nipples are alike - not even in the same woman. One
woman may be extremely "touchy" when it comes to nipples; others almost handle
"truckloads" of weights, hung from the nipples. In other words, everything is
different for everybody (and may even be different for the left and right nipple
of your own partner) and you will do well to carefully experiment to find out
what works and doesn't work in your specific situation.
In general: the breasts and nipples are an area on the body that is very
suitable for long and intense play, as long as the building up is done properly
and slowly and you do not go for the maximum immediately.
Another important thing to consider is psychological response to breast and
nipple torture. Almost every woman has different responses to it. Some
absolutely love it, some hate it and every shade of grey in between. Some women
don't mind it at all if they are humiliated through their breasts - such as
during milking-training - while others will never ever allow it. Make sure you
do not overlook these important aspects in your communication. No matter how
many pictures you see or articles you read about it, nothing comes easy and
never ever take anything for granted.
Bear in mind that most women have a love-hate relationship with their breasts
and that this varies during the different phases in their life. It is obvious
that their mental response towards their breasts during and after pregnancy is
much more intense. But also during and after
menopause their emotions will be different, as will happen during times, when
specific "age" issues arise (The "I am getting older" issue - usually in many
cases triggered by the inevitable influence of gravity on the breasts). And -
ladies - there isn't much difference between men and woman in that area. Women
have a tendency to try and stay
"girlish", just as men will frequently want to be boys (which is what makes them
love things like motorcycles, cars, football and fishing so much). Your female
reaction to getting older is just different, but it is very much there!
This is also true for the sensitivity of breasts and nipples. This may very well
be different during the various phases of life - so what might have been
possible five years ago may no longer be possible now. Or the other way around!
Erotic power exchange is a constant learning curve for both. This is just one of
these areas where nothing ever stays the same.
Invisible torture and teasing
During the Middle Ages European nuns used a very specific form of (self) punishment
whenever they got sexually aroused. They would wrap tight pieces of cloths
around their breasts - usually flattening them all together. That is not such a
punishment, you might think. True, but then we didn't tell they'd lay roses -
including the thorns - over
their breasts first.
With this in mind it is easy to see how the breasts can be used for all kinds of
subtle or invisible (to the outside world) torture and teasing.










